MONTREAL, July 31, 2021 /PRNewswire-PRWeb/ -- Conflict
is unpleasant, uncomfortable, loud, and vocal - but it can be so
much worse when both parties go into it with the sole intention of
being proven right. Without compromise, conflict can drag on
incessantly, or rise from the grave to haunt every subsequent
argument where parties hash out grievances from decades ago. Why is
it that some people would rather win a fight at any cost than make
concessions? According to research from PsychTests.com, a dislike
for compromise is about more than just the pursuit of victory or
bragging rights.
Analyzing data collected from 12,259 people who took the
Emotional Intelligence Test, PsychTests' researchers compared the
personality, attitudes, and behaviors of people who would rather
win an argument vs. those who would rather compromise. Here's where
they differed:
PEOPLE WHO WANT TO WIN AN ARGUMENT TEND TO HAVE A CYNICAL
ATTITUDE TOWARDS LIFE.
- 45% are pessimists who tend to expect the worst of every
situation or person (compared to 30% of Compromisers).
- 26% have trust issues and refuse to place their faith in anyone
(compared to 10% of Compromisers).
- 31% feel that others take advantage of them (compared to 21% of
Compromisers).
PEOPLE WHO WANT TO WIN AN ARGUMENT CAN BE UNSCRUPULOUSLY
OPPORTUNISTIC
- 33% only do good deeds for the recognition (compared to 16% of
Compromisers).
- 37% will use insincere flattery in order to get what they want
from someone (compared to 17% of Compromisers).
PEOPLE WHO WANT TO WIN AN ARGUMENT STRUGGLE WITH THEIR EMOTIONS
AS WELL AS OTHER PEOPLE'S
- 46% feel uncomfortable around people who are overtly emotional
(compared to 25% of Compromisers).
- 44% postpone or entirely avoid discussing touchy topics
(compared to 31% of Compromisers).
- 55% feel awkward in social situations (compared to 44% of
Compromisers).
- 37% tend to suppress negative emotions (compared to 28% of
Compromisers).
- 38% have anger management issues (compared to 19% of
Compromisers).
- 54% admit that they tend to be very impatient (compared to 29%
of Compromisers).
- 53% will do whatever they can to keep themselves from crying
(compared to 39% of Compromisers).
- Ironically, 40% would rather avoid conflict entirely (compared
to 2% of Compromisers).
PEOPLE WHO WANT TO WIN AN ARGUMENT TEND TO DWELL ON NEGATIVE
THOUGHTS, FEELINGS OR PROBLEMS
- 40% spend hours ruminating over perceived insults (compared to
25% of Compromisers).
- 54% overanalyze situations, creating problems that don't exist
(compared to 40% of Compromisers).
- 39% have difficulty breaking out of a bad mood (compared to 20%
of Compromisers).
PEOPLE WHO WANT TO WIN AN ARGUMENT TEND TO HAVE AN INTENSE NEED
FOR CONTROL, TO BE IN CHARGE, OR TO BE RIGHT
- 36% need to be the one to "call the shots" at work or in their
personal lives (compared to 14% of Compromisers).
- 33% insist that tasks or chores be done their way (compared to
10% of Compromisers).
- 19% refuse to accept opinions that differ from their own
(compared to 5% of Compromisers).
- 68% tend to be very stubborn (compared to 47% of
Compromisers).
PEOPLE WHO WANT TO WIN AN ARGUMENT ARE MORE LIKELY TO HAVE
UNHAPPY RELATIONSHIPS
- 34% rated the quality of their personal relationships as
"Excellent" (compared to 53% of Compromisers).
- 33% rated the quality of their professional relationships as
"Excellent" (compared to 47% of Compromisers).
- 32% admit that they find themselves in conflict situations more
often than other people they know (compared to 11% of
Compromisers).
- 10% admit that they can be difficult to get along with
(compared to 2% of Compromisers).
- 15% find it difficult to bond with other people (compared to 9%
of Compromisers).
"Imagine what would happen if every person taking part in a
peace talk or major negotiation went into it with the sole
intention of winning, regardless of the cost - it would lead to
chaos. Life isn't a game show where only one person can come out
victorious," explains Dr. Ilona
Jerabek, president of PsychTests. "The same applies to
conflict. Evidently, there will be circumstances where there is no
room for compromise. In most cases, however, meeting someone
halfway, making concessions, and finding a mutually beneficial
solution is the ideal path. If all you do is fight to win,
regardless of the cost, you end up losing in the end - either the
deal or negotiation itself, and most certainly your relationship
with the other person. Unfortunately, some people mistake
compromise for weakness; they feel that compromising is taking the
sucker's way out. In reality, finding a solution that benefits
everyone is what takes the most work, strength, and
dedication."
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About PsychTests AIM Inc.
PsychTests AIM Inc. originally appeared on the internet scene in
1996. Since its inception, it has become a pre-eminent provider of
psychological assessment products and services to human resource
personnel, therapists and coaches, academics, researchers and a
host of other professionals around the world. PsychTests AIM Inc.
staff is comprised of a dedicated team of psychologists, test
developers, researchers, statisticians, writers, and artificial
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SOURCE PsychTests.com